Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts

Saturday, October 1, 2011

So You Think You're Independent?


Getting sick at college is up there on the list of things you wouldn't wish on even your worst enemy.  Mommy isn't there to take care of you... and neither is anybody else.  Your R.A.'s, friends, and roommates are busy.  Your professors keep on piling on the homework without a clue whether you're dead or alive.  And then there's the sickness itself.  Your whole body hurts.  You can't move, and if you do, it's to run to the bathroom (which is entirely too far away!).  You can't keep anything down for more than twenty minutes.  You're so miserable, you want to die!


But that's not all you've faced in a week's time.  Just a few days ago while playing softball, you got popped square in the kneecap with the ball and got banished to crutches.  During this week you figure out that it's impossible to carry your book bag and purse while hobbling around on the wretched things.  Getting to ride the elevator is kind of cool, but mooching random people into carrying your stuff isn't.  Your fiance is getting tired of everyone commenting on how your purse matches his outfit every time he holds it.


Yes, this was me this week, and no, physical infirmities are no fun!  However, I did learn something through it that I never really thought about until now.  I'm a "get it done yourself" kind of person; you might call me independent.  Having to depend on someone else for almost anything kills me (or at least my pride).  Being on crutches and bedridden for a week has taught me that I'm NOT a one-person-show.  People were created for other people, and we all need each other.


Within ten seconds of getting hit by a softball, I realized that I couldn't walk off the field by myself.  After two ladies helped me off the field, I began wondering how I was going to make it up the hill to my dorm.  Thankfully, another friend took me for a ride in her Jeep.


The school nurse told me to use the crutches in her office, but how could I use them if I couldn't even walk to her office?  Tim agreed to bring them to me.  Then I had to figure out how to tote all of my stuff around campus!  Asking people to carry your purse...how lame is that??  Talk about humbling!


Someone took me to the hospital, where I got an x-ray on my knee (no broken bones, by the way... yay!).  The wait in the ER took so long my friend had to miss a church activity.  I felt so bad!!  Am I the trouble-maker or what?


Within a few days I was off the crutches, much to my excitement.  But don't get too excited, because then I woke up with a stomach virus.  I was banished from polite society, accompanied only by my pillow and a trashcan!  At college, even though you may slow down due to illness, the rest of life does not!  


My roommates did what they could and donated water bottles and crackers to my aid.  Tim brought me Gatorade.  Another friend brought me a Route 44 cup of ice from Sonic (aaaah-mazing!).  Mom might not have been there, but she would have been proud of the hard work everyone put into keeping me alive!


I am back in the land of the living now, but still feel the effects of the past week.  I am also convinced that we aren't as independent as we think we are; we rely heavily upon others whether we know it or not.  It took me a week of weakness to realize it, but I won't quickly forget it.  Don't live like you don't need anybody.  Wanting to accomplish something big on your own is admirable, but if someone wants to help you, let them.  We are not self-reliant beings; God created us to relate to and help each other.


Let me encourage you to be sensitive to others who need a hand.  Also, don't be so controlling that you won't let someone assist you.  Quite a few people went out of their way to help me this week, and it changed the way I think about life; have you stepped outside of your "bubble" to help someone today?

Friday, December 17, 2010

Some Thoughts on the Value of Friends

The most important things in life are not things!

Most of you have probably already seen something kind of like this, but it never hurts to be reminded! =)

Grammy Blick's Bible Reading: A Small Quiz

Friday, December 10, 2010

Some Thoughts About Dating and Relationships

I found this post on the blog "Micki Harjo Memoirs" and thought it was excellent advice for ladies considering a relationship or marriage.  A lot of thoughts run through a girl's mind when she meets a prospect; unfortunately, these questions almost never do.  This is because we don't think objectively when we're head-over-heels in love.  If you have a "special someone" in mind, read Advice to Young Women.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

10 Ways to Brighten Someone's Day

1. Send a handwritten note.
2. Make cookies.
3. Invite to watch a movie together.
4. Offer to run an errand.
5. Go on a shopping trip together.
6. Give a fruit basket.
7. Buy a card with sound.
8. Get ice cream.
9. Give genuine, sincere compliments.
10. Smile!

The most important things in life are not things... they're people!  

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Send Someone a Ray of Sunshine

One of the simple joys in life is getting an unexpected note in the mail.  Mailing notes for anything besides birthday and Christmas is almost extinct, but the sheer thrill of receiving a letter is not.  As a poor college student, I have to carefully gauge my spending money, even that which is used for stamps and stationery.  An easy solution: e-cards! 

Hallmark has a vast e-card selection, quite a few of which are free.  I encourage you to send a few and see if you like the system.  If you find you've discovered your new favorite way of sending a ray of sunshine, consider purchasing a year's subscription for $10 (as opposed to $1 each).  My favorite Hallmark e-cards to send and receive are Hoops and Yoyo!

It has been said that a card is the biggest little thing you can do for someone.  I recommend being an encouragement to someone when you're feeling down, because in lifting someone else up we become encouraged.  E-cards aren't the only way to send a smile, but I enjoy it and hope you'll give it a shot, too.

Friday, August 20, 2010

A True Friend

A True Friend...

1. Prays for you.
Plenty of people throw around the phrase, "I'm praying for you," but isn't it thrilling to know someone who actually will pray for you when she says she will?  Keep a list of prayer requests in your Bible or somewhere else you won't lose it.  Every time you commit to praying for a friend, write it down on that list so you won't forget.  Next time you see that person, ask her how the situation is doing, so she'll know you really have prayed for her.

2.  Is concerned with your spiritual condition.  Proverbs 13:20 says, "He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed."  A girl who's constantly trying to get you into trouble is not someone you should be close to!  In addition to praying for your buddies, encourage them to make right choices and cultivate a deep relationship with the Lord.  If you see one of your girlfriends falling spiritually, be caring enough to help her back up.  

3.  Sympathizes with you.  Sometimes all we need is someone to put their arm around us and share a few tears.  Maybe you can't relate to every situation your friends tell you about, because you don't really know how they feel -- but you can at least try.  Imagine yourself in her shoes, and rejoice, mourn, laugh, and cry with her.   I heard a story about a little girl who sat alone crying, when her friend came and sat with her for a while.  When the second girl's mother asked her what she did to help her friend, she replied, "Nothing, I just helped her cry."

We all have our ideas of what we look for in a friend, but these three qualities stick out to me as the most important.  In fact, Jesus prays for us, is extremely concerned for our spiritual welfare, and sympathized with his disciples and believers on numerous occasions as recorded in the gospels.  Proverbs 18:24 reads, "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."  If you want a friend, be a friend!  You can be an encouragement to many people just by implementing simple habits like praying for them, strengthening them spiritually, and showing sympathy.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

How to Make the Right Friends

Everyone knows the importance of making the right friends. They can make you or break you; the most influential person in the life of a young person is another young person; never underestimate the power of friends. We've heard all the catchphrases and one-liners there are to know about having the right kind of influences around you. But when it's your first week of college and you're scrambling around for a friend, how do you know who to hang out with and who to leave alone?

#1. Don't be in a hurry. It's easy to spot a popular looking girl and start a conversation with her in the lunch line, hang out that night and become fast friends, only to find out later she has a bad reputation for making it her point to break every rule in the handbook. The solution: Instead of desperately clinging to the first girl or group that appeals to you, stay back and watch for the first few weeks. Don't be antisocial, but don't "commit" to one single group either. The reason you should stand back and watch is because the rebels will always find other rebels, and the ones who actually want to serve God will do the same. Wait until basically all the awkward social categorizing is over, and a godly girl or group of girls will always accept you.

#2. If you want a friend, be a friend. True friendship is more than just, "I need a friend. Will you be my friend? I want a buddy. Will you hang out with me? I want... I need... I... I... Me... Me..." Don't be selfish when looking for someone to befriend. More than you might need someone, someone out there might need you. Look for ways to encourage people, and you will discover that the grateful ones will absorb every bit of it and will encourage you in return.

#3. You don't have to "get rid of" bad friends. If you've made the mistake everyone else has at some point and hastily made a friend that you'd really rather not be hanging all over you, there is hope! You know it's just not Christian to blurt out, "You're rebellious and annoying, please go away." The great thing is, you don't have to! Next time she brings up a "stupid rule" in the handbook, ask her if she's ever thought about why they made that rule and proceed to tell her. When she complains about a project or paper, tell her something that the Lord taught you through studying it yourself. Basically, combat evil with good. Eventually, your bad friends will get rid of you!

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