Worth the Wait

Physical intimacy before marriage is the popular (and easy) thing to do, but is it worth the guilt and dishonor? In this sex-obsessed generation, it is practically impossible to live without having some kind of regret relating to physical intimacy. Here are a few of Cary Schmidt's "20 Reasons to Avoid Premarital Sex:"


-It presents huge physical risk—diseases and illness are rampant among those who engage in this lifestyle.


-It is disappointing at the physical, emotional, and spiritual levels—the only physical intimacy that exceeds expectations is that founded on long-term commitment and marital growth.


-It creates a spiritual/emotional bond without commitment—this only breeds resentment, bitterness, and the feeling of being used. It says something like this, “I don’t love you enough to commit to you, but I love me enough to use you.”


To read the full blog post, click here. I plead with you, don't wait to agree with this counsel until you know it's true through experience. Take it from Bro. Schmidt when he writes, "A life of wonderful, married intimacy is well worth the wait!"

3 Myths About Marriage

I bet you all are thinking, "What is that topic doing on this blog?" Well, I just thought it'd be good to erase any false assumptions my younger readers have about marriage before they get in a serious relationship. Whether or not we want it this way, we are influenced by the world's viewpoint of love and relationships every day. High expectations fill our minds, and when we start assuming a guy can make us happy and feel secure, bad things happen.

Come read this short and simple post, "3 Myths About Marriage," by Paul Chappell. The counsel given is valuable for now and later, no matter what stage of a relationship you are in. Whether your relationship status is "single," "engaged, " "married," or "it's complicated," take this practical advice from a man of God. Click here to read the blog post.

Why Courtship?

I just read an excellent post on courtship and would like to share it with all of my readers.  "Courtship? Are You Crazy?" answers questions such as:

~ How do I explain courtship to a friend who thinks I'm crazy for wanting parental involvement in my relationship?

~ What's the big deal about "waiting?"

~ How do I deal with the guilt of my past if I've already screwed up?

~ What are some of the ramifications of impurity before marriage?

~ Does how we act in a relationship before I get married affect how I relate to my husband after we're married?

This post is designed for ladies who are old enough to be in a serious relationship, but if mothers see fit to share it with younger teens, that is completely up to their discretion.  Personally, I appreciate it more now as a 20-something adult than I would have as a teenager.  I learned a lot about the "why" of courtship just from reading this post, and I guarantee that you will, too!

I, Issac, Take Thee, Rebekah

I have a new favorite book!  No more eloquent words were ever spoken of the the sanctity and responsibilities of love than from Ravi Zacharias' I, Issac, Take Thee, Rebekah.  I've read almost the entire book in one day, and I'm no fast reader!  This book touches several important areas when considering marriage, including purity, dying to self, and parental involvement in a relationship.  It's one of the BEST books I've ever read on the subject, and I insist that anyone with marriage on their mind put this on their reading list.

Some Thoughts About Dating and Relationships

I found this post on the blog "Micki Harjo Memoirs" and thought it was excellent advice for ladies considering a relationship or marriage.  A lot of thoughts run through a girl's mind when she meets a prospect; unfortunately, these questions almost never do.  This is because we don't think objectively when we're head-over-heels in love.  If you have a "special someone" in mind, read Advice to Young Women.